Meals. Baths. Laundry. Shopping. Homework. You do so many things for others every day! But like most parents and caregivers, you probably don’t spend much time doing much just for you. Yet taking care of yourself is actually one of the most effective ways to make sure you’re at your best for the people you love.

Take some down time… lift your spirits! 
Taking care of your own needs helps enable you to respond to your little ones’ needs and challenges. Why? It’s hard to respond to others’ needs when you are stressed.  And children thrive on positive energy. A happier you creates a calm, steady environment — ideal for building stable and loving relationships.  So whether it’s a quick nap or a leisurely walk in the park, remember that a little time off to build your own reserves is great for you… and for those you care for.

Got a minute? Start a “For You” list! 
Put aside that “To Do” list for a moment. It’s time to make a list that’s all about you! What makes you smile, restores your energy, or adds a soothing moment to your day? Jot it down, or try these simple ideas for starters.

• Play. Give yourself permission to have fun. Get out for a walk, an aerobics class, a game of tennis… any physical activity that energizes and relieves stress.
• Connect. A good support network is priceless. Even a simple phone call to a friend or family member can make a big difference.
• Balance.You don’t have to do it all. In fact, you can’t! Setting priorities can keep you from feeling overwhelmed. It’s easier to let go of what’s not important when you know what really is.
• Eat well. Caring for young children is hard work and you need to keep your fuel tank full. A healthful diet, regular snacks, and lots of water help keep your energy up.
• Sleep. It’s not always easy, but adding some extra ZZZs wherever you can works wonders!
• Celebrate. Think of all the things you’ve learned to do for the children you care for — and give yourself a big pat on the back.

Taking care of yourself can take many different forms. Schedule a checkup, join a group, read a good book. Just remember: You deserve time for you, and your children do too.

Special thanks to Nina Sazer O’Donnell, Roberta Golinikoff, PhD, and Kathy Hirsh Pasek, PhD, for the generous donation of their valuable time and expertise in reviewing this edition of Bits of Understanding.

Civitas thanks Parents as Teachers, an international early childhood parent education and family support program, for their ongoing support. This Civitas tool was adapted for the Born Learning campaign.

© 2007 Civitas